Parents want to know what is going on with their children. In order to really know they have to question, listen, learn and respect the thoughts and feelings of their children. Idealistically, all parents would operate in such a manner, however realistically, being a parent means doing the best you can knowing what you are privileged to be told. The thoughts and feelings of your children are not always expressed. You can only be there and be ready to listen, accept and love.

Statistics representing adolescent suicide are alarming. Acknowledging the problem is difficult, but necessary. It could be your child, or one you know.

The first step is recognizing there is some concern and following up. In order to recognize the signs, you have to know what they are. In general a change in behavior or interaction is sign there is something going on. Though all adolescents don’t exhibit the same signs, there are some common factors identified with increased risk. All signs are worth recognizing.

• Is your child isolating themselves from others?
• Are there any mental health or substance abuse issues?
• Do they exhibit purpose and planning for the future?
• Do they seem nervous, worried, stressed?
• Is motivation poor?
• Have they withdrawn from activities: social groups; activities?
• Do they express statements reflecting feeling stuck; trapped; as if there is no way out?
• Does your child appear to have given up?
• Do they seem increasingly agitated or aggressive?
• Are they engaging in risk-taking behaviors?

Knowing it is time to do something, acknowledging the concern and offering help. Many parents have been where you are and may feel what you feel. They know the difficulty in addressing the circumstances; they also know the potential of not doing so. The first step is open dialogue and communication with your teen regarding suicide.